The more you make yourself presently aware in your body, the more shape you have, the more emotional energy you can express.
"Allowance" is bringing your emotional experience into conscious awareness.
Limb One of Emotional Yoga is called allowance because it is the process of allowing yourself to be aware of your feelings. This is the starting point, where you begin to examine yourself.
The words allow and mind have similar meanings. When you mind something, you pay attention to it, and you can choose to pay attention to anything. The process of allowance gets you in touch with a mood or emotion so that you can recognize it, name it, and then clarify it. Emotional awareness is a pivotal skill, because only when you know what you feel can you heal what you feel.
Allowance is the deliberate action of reaching out with your attention and bringing into focus an unclear feeling. This is the initial energy of thrusting your attention toward feeling and meaning. When you allow yourself to feel, you let the part of you that desires reach out and make eye contact with yourself. Yoga teaches you how to do this through a step-by-step process of observation. First, you learn how to be aware of the "felt sense" of your body. Then you learn how to recognize and balance what you feel.
When you allow yourself to feel your emotions with deliberate attention, you plant yourself in a positive way and become some body. You identify yourself with your bodily awareness. You define yourself as something separate from others, and create your individual boundary formation. This is how you initiate your emotional embodiment. The more you make yourself presently aware in your body, the more shape you have, the more emotional energy you can express.
In yoga, the experience of realizing your awareness is called "witnessing". It happens when you are aware of the one who feels. When you allow yourself to feel your emotional body, you can easily be aware of the one who is doing the feeling. This means you are identifying with your inner, feeling self. Clarity gives you your emotional roots. Only when you feel your roots can you begin to feel your growing.
Learn more from my book, "Emotional Yoga: How the Body Can Heal the Mind".