Allow Yourself to Feel

By BijaB

Accept what you are feeling as you experience it right now.

You can't pretend to be emotionally aware. Emotional awareness comes from the ability to pay attention to your emotional states. This is a pivotal skill that brings your emotional experience into conscious awareness.

Try this emotional inquiry I call, "Allow Yourself to Feel." It's a process of allowing yourself to be aware of your feelings. This is the starting point, from where you begin to examine yourself and your world.

Begin by giving yourself your full attention. Eavesdrop on yourself and bring your awareness into your body. Feel your body. Fill every cell of your body with your awareness. This may take a few moments.

Step 1:  As you give yourself your full attention, become aware of what you feel, as though you are shining a light on yourself. Continue by asking yourself these questions:

  • What am I feeling?
  • What am I thinking?
  • What did I just do?

Step 2:  Use your awareness to identify what you feel. Use that awareness to finish these phrases:

  • I am happy because....
  • I am uncomfortable because....
  • I feel some sadness because...

Step 3:  Identify what you are experiencing in the present moment. This time, make no references to the reasons for your feelings. Let go of the "why." Simply say to yourself: "I feel pain" or "I feel anxious" or "I feel frustrated" or "I feel pleasure."

Step 4:  Now, allow it. Accept what you are feeling as you experience it right now. Do not resist it. Allow it to continue as long as it needs to. If your feelings begin to change, let them change.

Step 5:  Breathe with it. Consciously begin to breathe, and at the same time keep feeling what you are feeling. Gently deepen your breath for a minute or so. Just stay with your breath.

Step 6:  After a while, feel the emotion come to a place of balance on its own. What you feel now may be slightly different from when you started. Perhaps you feel a little peace, some contentment, or connection with yourself. Continue to stay with what you are feeling now.

Step 7:  Settle it. Simply place your attention on your heart and feel this moment as it is. It's something that you know, like coming back home. Have a feeling awareness within your entire body. Just effortlessly keep your attention in your body.

That's it. You can do this process anywhere, anytime, and it takes only a few minutes. Spend as much time on it as you wish, depending on the circumstances and how deep you want to go.

Feel it and you will feel released.

Check out my video, Standing Breathing Awareness.

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